Youth Power Group
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Youth Power Group
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Q. My dad is so mean. He never hugs us, not even my mom. He’s always yelling at us and hates our music and our clothes. He just wants us to be quiet and go to church and get straight A’s in school. I wish he would just let us have fun like he’s supposed to.
YPG - Questions & Answers
A. What do you mean, “like he’s supposed to?” And what do you mean by “fun”? Staying out late at night and partying? Playing video games all day on the sofa and stuffing yourself with junk food?
I’m not taking either your side or your dad’s but I want you to think clearly about what the job of your father is. He’s there to provide for you, protect you from harm, and raise you to be a responsible adult that can provide for yourself in the future.
Sure along the way, dad’s that play and joke around with their kids can build a closer relationship with them, and hugs and kisses really are important for a family to be close. But if your father won’t do those things right now, it doesn’t mean that he’s a bad father, or that you have the right to rebel against him.
I know you would love some kindness and positive attention, but it’s not your job to demand that he change. It is your job, however, for you to be the best son you can be. There’s nothing wrong with being quiet and respectful at home, or doing your best to get straight A’s, is there? How about going to church, is that such a hard thing to do when you have a youth group that has a lot of fun every week?
If you just focus on doing what your dad asks of you – even if you wish he’d ask in a nicer way – you will actually be making your life much better, preparing yourself for the future, and giving your father no reason to complain.
By doing your part and praying for your family, God could actually turn him into the dad you always wanted.
I’m not taking either your side or your dad’s but I want you to think clearly about what the job of your father is. He’s there to provide for you, protect you from harm, and raise you to be a responsible adult that can provide for yourself in the future.
Sure along the way, dad’s that play and joke around with their kids can build a closer relationship with them, and hugs and kisses really are important for a family to be close. But if your father won’t do those things right now, it doesn’t mean that he’s a bad father, or that you have the right to rebel against him.
I know you would love some kindness and positive attention, but it’s not your job to demand that he change. It is your job, however, for you to be the best son you can be. There’s nothing wrong with being quiet and respectful at home, or doing your best to get straight A’s, is there? How about going to church, is that such a hard thing to do when you have a youth group that has a lot of fun every week?
If you just focus on doing what your dad asks of you – even if you wish he’d ask in a nicer way – you will actually be making your life much better, preparing yourself for the future, and giving your father no reason to complain.
By doing your part and praying for your family, God could actually turn him into the dad you always wanted.
